Grief and Loss

Sooner or later, it happens.

You’ve lost a loved one. A pet. Your job. Your home. Your ability to do the things you once loved. A long-held dream.

And it hurts.

You want to move on, but you can’t. No energy. No motivation.

Just sadness. Depression. Guilt. Remorse.

Your friends want to help, but they don’t understand. You can’t face them, can’t talk to them – the mere thought fills you with anxiety, nervousness, and fear. Or even worse – nothing at all.

You’re just numb.

Except when you’re frustrated or even angry – “How could this happen?” “How could they leave?” “Why me?”

Or when you don’t know how to feel and just want to escape.

You’re feeling grief and loss here in Asheville, NC, whether you realize it or not. You feel like you’re going crazy.

But you’re not.

Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process.

The reasons for grief are many and dealing with a significant loss can be one of the most difficult times in your life. Feelings of loss are very personal – only you know what’s significant to you. And it can be lonely experiencing this loss and grief in Asheville, NC.

Sudden or shocking losses due to events like crimes, accidents, or suicide can be traumatic.

But subtle or less obvious losses can also cause strong feelings of grief, even though those around you may not know the extent of your feelings.

Losses can challenge your sense of security and confidence in the predictability of life. You may experience symptoms such as sleep disturbance, nightmares, distressing thoughts, depressed mood, social isolation, or severe anxiety.

Predictable losses, like those due to terminal illness, sometimes allow more time to prepare for the loss.

However, they create two layers of grief: the grief related to the anticipation of the loss and the grief related to the loss itself.

When will it end?

The length of the grief process is different for everyone; it’s not on a predictable schedule.

Although it can be quite painful at times, you shouldn’t rush the process. Be patient with yourself as you experience your unique reactions to the loss.

You experience grief in cycles, somewhat like climbing a spiral staircase. In Asheville, NC, grief can feel like circling around the mountains we call home. But while you may feel like you’re going in circles, you’re making progress. 

And significant dates, holidays, or other reminders can trigger you to grieve all over again.

What can I do?

First, know that there’s hope. With time and support, things generally do get better.

Together, we’ll work through a series of conversations, using tools such as EMDR, Tapas Acupressure Technique, guided imagery, and Reiki.   

You’ll have some work to do in between, as well.

As we go, you’ll want to remember to be patient with yourself and to take care of yourself.

If you’re experiencing grief and loss in Asheville, NC, you don’t have to go it alone.

Let me help. Contact me at (828) 302-3868, and let’s start your journey of healing today.